men and women and socialisation ...Lily Myers - "Shrinking Women" (CUPSI 2013)

spend 3 and a half minutes and watch this today, watch it and do me a favour...

we all are creatures of socialisation, inheritance of attitudes and values is accidental,  almost imperceptible...

we learn from those around us and what is around us?

sexism and patriarchy...triumphant and all pervasive

i watched my grandmother stand at the foot of my  grandfathers bed, who was ill often...a cup or a plate in her hand, for long periods of time, waiting for him to merely look her way, pandering to his every need...

my other grandmother never, never, ate before she fed her family of seven children and a husband...there would often be nothing left in the pot for her..

my mother is strong, feisty even, and will hold her own. she will stand up for rights and admonish wrong. however she will do so only when she can perceive...and our social constructs often determine what we perceive and how...

i shudder at the thought of unconsciously contributing to such inequity...perhaps i do, i am human. however i  am determined to learn, to perceive to correct and help myself grow out of this habit..

we are all human, men and women..

please let us be...